I was just going through some old posts when I bloghopped on over to Mia’s (old) wordpress site. She had a poem there that totally reminded me of one of my roommates back in college. His name was George. Total Irish in appearance — red (RED!) hair and freckles galore. George couldn’t get a tan even if he fake baked. He dated my friend A for 6 years — it was a given that after we were done with the whole college bit, they’d finally, finally do the church thing and be married once and for all. A highlight we didn’t have to ask or wonder about because what else would they do with themselves? They were inseparable!
October 30, 2000 (or was it 2001?), I came home to find all the lights turned off. The dogs weren’t around as they were with George in the bedroom (we all lived together — A, George and myself). A was still somewhere on campus and it was nearing evening and I knew George had work (he was a railroad engineer at the time and worked the graveyard shift). I head up to my room and out he comes from the bedroom claiming he’d been in bed all day with a bad headache. Nothing unusual there — George ALWAYS had migraines. But that evening, he just didn’t look good at all, but the hardworking person he is (I still stand firm in my belief there existed no other human being as nice, good, and just as George), he went to work anyways. If my memory serves me correctly, he caught up with A before he left, kissed her goodbye and off he went.
Middle of the night came (so that would make it October 31, morning) and the dogs are barking like crazy. Hands are pounding downstairs on the front door and I. just. froze. Anyone who calls in the middle of the night, much less hearing hard pounding on the door complete with doorbell rings, that’s nothing but bad news. I immediately thought of George and I paused. Worst case scenario was he was in a bad accident. Tsk, tsk. And then I heard it.
The bloodcurdling (sp?) type of scream where all the bed bugs fear for their life and run up your neck and every hair on your body stands and you’re locked to the ground. I started crying already as I ran down the stairs. But it was too late. A had already crumbled to the floor and I was seeing blood, pissed that someone could come to us so freaking late and cause this kind of fear (pain!). It was our landlord, together with one of George’s coworkers. A couldn’t talk, she was screaming and crying at the same time and the dogs were no help at all. I looked at the landlord for some sign, clarification for all the rucus.
Then she said it. “Honey, George is gone.”
He died while at work, on the train — his heart stopped, he collapsed while playing a deck of cards with the other guys. There was no way to revive him as the train at the time was not fully equipped to give him even a few minutes. And they were 5-6 minutes away from the ambulance that was waiting for them. You can’t just stop a train in the middle of nowhere, right? George was dead on arrival.
So the landlord was there to pick us up and transport A and I to the hospital. To identify that it was in fact him. OMG. I’m just his friend and already, I need someone to hold my hand. Poor A.
Complete nightmare to the say the very least. And that someone like George was taken away — to this day, I don’t understand that part. But oh well, right? Lives were shook up but as you can see, everything always comes out okay in the end. A is happily married to T and things really did have to happen in that specific way… because well, A is just one amazing person now. NOT that she wasn’t before. But oh, how she’s blossomed. George was given to us all for a reason
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I don’t know that you could call it a happy note, but I had gifted George with a barong from one of the HIS branches in Tarlac. It was brand-new and he never had the chance to wear it — until his funeral. Sad. But again, there was a reason for that barong. And boy did he look mighty fine in it, red hair and freckles galore. Hehe.
And that poem I was talking about from Mia’s old site? A’s sister had read it to him years ago and she’d kept it tucked away all that time — for it to finally be read at his wake. Apparently, he really liked the poem. I guess everything was just building up…
He was cremated immediately after. I kept him in my care (ashes and all, yes people) for a few months, about less than a year, I think. And I never felt safer. I took him on long drives, if you could believe. He must have been laughing at me the whole time — George always got me out of ruts when it came to car problems. Haha. He grounded me like you wouldn’t believe. He used to shake his head at me everytime I’d act like a brat. I’m sure he still does. LOL.
So thanks for reading this if you got to this point. Here’s the poem:
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
(Mary E. Frye)